A profound sadness always hits me this time of year…the second Sunday in May or Mother’s Day. I have not blogged for a while and thought others might relate to my feelings or not. I write this to share my feelings, not for anyone to become angry at my point-of-view (which is a risk I take in a public blog), help me, but just simply to listen. Living in the suburbs this day seems harder for me being single and not having children. When I lived in Manhattan it was just another day, I of course called my mom and sent a card, but that was it. Here I am surrounded by my friends who have children (whom I might add brings me such joy) and I feel like I am missing out (I suffer from FOMO-fear of missing out). I will inevitably be wished a Happy Mother’s Day by a well-meaning cashier and I have already received at least ten emails from various retailers saying “Dear Mom” which I delete, but sometimes cause me to shed a tear. Not really sure where this is going, I certainly do not want to turn this into a pity party for me because I have not met the right guy to start a family with, because I do have hope that I could very well become a mom in the years to come. I just know that this is a hard holiday for so many in our community, people have lost their moms, people have lost their children, people have not been able to have children, people are single, the list goes on. I also respect that Mother’s Day is a joyous day for mom’s to be loved and celebrated. I send cards to my close mom friends, I take my mom out to brunch, I celebrate too, but I also find myself in tears. It is a day when my profound wanting to become a mom is heightened, when I see a baby with their mom and I fight back the tears. I will end now and wish those of you mom’s a wonderful, special day and I wish for those who find it a struggle to know that they are not alone. Thank you for reading and I will look forward to continuing to write about being single in the suburbs. My next blog is sure to have a happier theme.
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