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Reports: Lacrosse Coach on Leave After Confronting Goalie

Lisa Lindley, Darien High School girls lacrosse coach, is on administrative leave from the team after a confronting the team goalie last Friday, which was witnessed by many and caught on camera.

The Darien News and The Hour of Norwalk are reporting that Lisa Lindley, the very successful girls lacrosse team coach for , has been put on administrative leave after she publicly confronted the team's goalie at a recent game.

Pictures of the incident were caught by a Hearst newspapers photographer, showing Lindley grabbing the helmet of the goalie during the confrontation. The incident occurred last Friday, May 25, at the FCIAC girls lacrosse finals when Darien played Greenwich High School at a Brien McMahon High School field in Norwalk.

Local sports in Fairfield County can be intense for coaches, players and parents. One of the more recent incidents that brought criticism to coaches in the area occurred in New Canaan last year, when youth football coaches encouraged kids to .

Lindley confronted the goalie during a time-out in the first half of the championship game, which Darien won, 17-14.

Darien schools Superintendent Stephen Falcone confirmed that Lindley has been put on administrative leave with pay while the team competes in the state championship, but did not state why or even confirm that the administrative leave was connected to the incident, both newspapers reported.

Lindley is also a gym teacher at , but is continuing to teach there without interruption, the Hour reported. She is also the lacrosse director at Sono Field House in Norwalk, according to the Darien News.

A report in The Hour described Lindley as a "fiery, out-spoken and super successful" coach of the team. She has been coaching it since 1994, according to the Darien News.

Editor's note: This article was originally published at 10:42 a.m., June 1. The time stamp has been changed for layout purposes on the Home page of Darien Patch.

Phil McCraken June 06, 2012 at 12:05 AM
Luca, I don't know, you would have to ask Norris. If I were to 'assume' like you do, I'd say that track coaches are more like cattle ranchers of the student body. Also, track is not a true team sport. But that is just my opinion :) Sincerely, Phil
sebastian dangerfield June 06, 2012 at 03:53 AM
phil what do we need to ask of steve norris? You say that in order to win, and learn in life, we should embrace abuse. People who get beaten up, have a better chance at succeeding according to the people on here, challenging the notion that this coach may need to tone it down. The point is pretty clear. Coaches at Darien High School--girls programs, have achieved success, and the athletes that graduate , after having run for Norris are also well prepared and balanced. Therefore, your contention that girls sports are better off having had a yelling abuser --one that gets in their faces, is not supported by the likes of steve norris. I dont have to ask him a thing. I watched him....i can easily bet anyone that --not one girl will ever have felt abused by the guy--and yet they win a lot. All this justiification, as I say above, is perfect cognitive dissonance theory. Let me say with certainty, that if lindley is removed, and replaced by a less physical coach--and they win--(and they will) then the girls in the same program, with a different coach, who remain for 4 years-will all give kudos to the new coach.... new style and all. which coach, who wins ever receives from athletes who have stayed through to their senior year---have super negative things to say? the bench players? Maybe. But the starters--no way. Name a DHS coach that wins where the athletes dont support the coach. Go for it...it aint happening. Your theory is bogus.
sebastian dangerfield June 06, 2012 at 03:59 AM
Ill ask again--which coach --that wins at DHS --who doesnt beat up players ---is maligned? name one? The thing is--lots of teams at DHS are winning teams. But the coaches are not in your face types.... sure the alumni support lindley.... so do the track athletes of steve norris --a mild mannered good guy. look at dissonance theory. THESE female lax players HAVE to Support LINDLEY. Their minds will not allow anything other than support. But if they have really fair and reasonable parents--they will support them as well. How can nice parents be correct? When you are all saying that a tough coach forms strong character? Its all justification....sorry--but its simple psychology. If you started for 3 years--no matter how unfair this woman is--no matter what the damge--you will support her---thats how the mind works.
KART class of 99 June 06, 2012 at 12:35 PM
do you honestly think lisa sits on these blogs and responds? I think a lot of people here are very sensitive and very quick to judge. I commented earlier under Cheryls post and I will say it again. Naysayers you are basing your opinions off what other pple are saying, photos etc. Does this situation directly affect you and your family? If no then you should be objective here. You say it isnt about winning, but see it is, you are fooling yourselves if you think its about fair play on the field and in life. Yes I understand there are other ways to conduct yourself on the field but Lisa has a fire & passion that is contagious AND everyone wants a piece of it. She has made me a stronger and better person on and off the field. She molded me into the athlete I am today and I am a better person for knowing her, she taught me to dig deep, that I am capable. Darien parents expect their kid to start on Varsity, Win State Titles and have Lisa get their kid into college.I was on the team that built the championship titles back to back, heart and soul with Lisa at the helm. If you take her away it will take decades to rebuild the program. Fact. Dariens reputation is built around Lisa and her program, Darien produces the best and the brightest. You should be honored to put on that BW jersey and step on that field everyday. you are a top athlete, you earned that spot. Parents be proud your kid is playing for Lisa, they are going on to do amazing things ready for life! BWP KART!
lax watcher June 06, 2012 at 01:40 PM
what does "KART" stand for?
Kart Fan June 06, 2012 at 02:11 PM
It 's a war cry that can't be put in print.Another example of learning right from wrong.Again a player can verbally abuse opponents or choose not to.As long as you buy in to the off season requirements and play chargers in the summer you can live the dream of being a blue wave lacrosse player.The sport has become a cash cow for the people in charge.Perhaps thats why the stress of a tie game led Coach to rattle the goalie's head.No championships could potentially lead to falling off the gravy train that has become Darien lacrosse.As far as college goes,attend the coache's camps at schools you'd like to attend.It goes much farther than playing in high school gets you.
sebastian dangerfield June 06, 2012 at 02:17 PM
Kart You make a lot of assertions..., yet you provide no evidence, other than to say, you believe them to be true. I cant take that away from you.... but can I ask you just a couple of questions? If Lindley 'gets kids into college' and it will take 'decades' to rebuild the program should she leave---why are so many other programs at DHS successful? Just girls alone--the soccer, volleyball, swimming, track, cross country, to name a few have won multiple championships. Are you saying that Marj Trifone of the swim team is a failure? That her supportive methodology doesnt breed successful young women who are prepared for life? Ive mentioned Steve Norris a few times--but are you saying that the women who are on his teams are ill-prepared? Unsuccessful? Your conclusion that without Lindley , the girls lax program will fail--that the girls who enter the program under a new coach, will be less successful in all walks of life is a bold statement. And it would be more believable, if the darien girls lax program were the ONLY successful program, and the only program where girls get into good colleges, and succeed in life. But, until you make that assertion, the idea of a replacement coach, does not seem so fatalistic as you suggest. Somehow, we have 'nice' coaches who have achieved success ---so, while its nice you support Lindely, your assertions that she was uniquely qualified and the sole driving force behind your success or other girls success, is a bit over the top.
KART class of 99 June 06, 2012 at 02:56 PM
Luca Duff Cruz - we are talking about the girls varsity lacrosse program. I never said any other programs were unsuccessful at darien high school. Stay on topic. I am again assuming you are not affected by this situation in your home. Rome wasnt built in a day. If Lisa was to leave it would in fact take years to build the program back to where it is today. You seem to be out of touch with reality. I am assuming you live in Darien since you speak so educated on other coaches. People move to Darien for the school systems, the top notch athletics and the excellent coaching staff. The reputation of the school is also built on where it ranks in sports. Fact. Darien girls lacrosse is known for breeding elite, strong minded tough athletes who were coached under Lisa Lindley. fact, ask any college coach, they know who she is and what athletes she produces. Coaches come to recruit at the FCIAC and State games. fact. If you bring in change and a new coach cant mirror what Lindley built then you think parents wont be barking in the AD's ear? I never said fatalistic, it would be a disservice to the community to implement change based on peoples emotions that really have no direct relation to the situation.bottom line is whose fight are you fighting? you are not clear where you stand. are you a concerned parent of a current player on her team? or can you just not comprehend that this may have been blown out of proportion and people actually care about her as a person?
lax watcher June 06, 2012 at 03:03 PM
What does "KART" stand for? It is clearly an acronym that you are proud of, perhaps you can enlighten us with the meaning. Maybe it would help us better understand Lisa and her program.
Siwanoy June 06, 2012 at 04:21 PM
Seems pretty simple, suspend her without pay for a year.
Charley June 06, 2012 at 04:36 PM
Careful what you wish for or she'll be on the other side of the field kicking our butt.
Charley June 06, 2012 at 04:58 PM
The past and present players don't appear to have an issue with her.
phillip mccraken jr June 06, 2012 at 07:06 PM
Can we all agree to end this. For the players sake and especially the goalie and her family lets drop it. The coach has been suspended already and probably has more issues to get through before she's allowed to get back on the field. In the end she snapped and has been punished for it. The embarassment will hanfg over the rest of her career. Lets give all parties a break. There is no winner here. The town of Darien all came out looking like losers so lets put it to bed.
Owsley June 06, 2012 at 08:13 PM
Lets do that. Now that you've gotten the final word and judgement in, lets cease all discussion on this topic. This topic is hereby closed by Phillip McCracken Jr !
sebastian dangerfield June 06, 2012 at 11:05 PM
Kart Im not off topic. IN order to gauge properly the actions of one coach, it is sometimes useful to compare them to other coaches. Is that fair? I think it is. You say for example, "people move to darien for schools, athletics and coaching staffs. Im not sure if that is actully true--but I see this incident about Lindley being reported on other national news services. Are you sure the image of a coach violently pushing a smaller girl by her helmet is going to get people to move here? But anyway--my point all along, is that you all point to her win-loss record (not unimportant, as other people want to contend) and her character building coaching methods. This is where I think its worth comparing...as you contend that without her aggressive, 'passionate' style, the program is destined to fall into disrepair for 'decades.' That may be your concept...and --Im not going to just say "youre wrong" like so many people. Instead, Id like for you to consider why the boys program does well. (a good DYL) or why the swim program does well ( a supportive coach) or why the track team does well ( a supportive coach and team spirt) and then consider, how the success of these other teams at DHS has come without benefit of Lisa Lindley. Or her style. If every coach that had a winning record emulated Lindley-then you'd have a point. But cant you see that other teams have been successful without her style? Why is her style uniquely qualified to lead Darien girls lax?
Glasshouse June 07, 2012 at 01:09 AM
Oh my god. This is the most crazy psycho thing I have ever read. Really. Now adult are attacking each other and also naming kids names. Listen to yourselves. It's embarrassing.
Owsley June 07, 2012 at 03:18 AM
but yet you are still coming here to read the comments, eh ?
Owsley June 07, 2012 at 03:22 AM
Ok, Siwanoy let me rephrase. is every one who watches girls lacrosse a "creeper" whatever that is? Sounds like its in the same zip code as "pervert" but hey maybe I'm out of touch with the latest lingo. "pervert lite?" " creep?" "creepy?" enlighten me. I don't think its anyone would use to describe him or herself. I think we are quibbling over fractions here.
sebastian dangerfield June 07, 2012 at 06:41 AM
glasshouse Weird Your earlier comment said that this is the latest "darien media gossip system" Now youre saying its the crazyiest thing you ever read. Maybe you need to decide if this is the norm, or the craziest thing you ever read?? Im thinking you are trying to silence people--and --it isnt having much effect. The pictures tell the story---the comments on here are intended to either support the coach, or make statements that disagree with this type of conduct. If that is gossip--then gossip has a purpose.
Lindleysupporter June 07, 2012 at 06:35 PM
Christine...why don't you take a look at the latest Darien Times article and see the amazing impact that she has had on her athletes over the course of her 18 years coaching at DHS. I don't think any of her players have been shy about showing their support OPENLY. Have you ever met Lisa, played with her, played for her, coached with her? Do you even know her? I doubt it. So I recommend that you stop passing judgement. Clearly, the article in the time articulates that Lisa's CHARACTER does trump the wins and the loses. She CLEARLY had an impact beyond the lacrosse field. The fact that you are writing such atrocious statements about someone you probably don't know shows a lot about your character, Ms. Keegan.
Glasshouse June 07, 2012 at 08:32 PM
...I'm just reading the emails that come to me since I made my original comment. I do believe that there is a darien media gossip system that is ugly and loves to tear people apart. Whether it's fellow citizens, athletes, coaches....anyone is subject. I know I shouldn't comment bc it really serves no purpose...but it really is pretty psycho the way you guys go at it. It's funny to see how crazy you are when you personally go at each other (reminds me of the Jerry Springer Show) but also sad to see how ugly this is....at the expense of good people, kids and fellow citizens. This held my attention for a little while but now it's time to look away. Have at it...:)
Phil McCraken June 07, 2012 at 09:16 PM
Oh my god everyone stop my e-mail can't take it. You've all said your peace-- agree to disagree. Go outside and do something, anything but comment on this.
Phil McCraken June 07, 2012 at 09:18 PM
Too many tiger moms. Dad's don't care enough to comment on this.
Phil McCraken June 07, 2012 at 09:20 PM
Move on, read this, comment on their site. http://www.darientimes.com/blue-wave-high-school-sports/5003400-championing-a-champion-former-wave-ladies-laxers-speak-out-about-lindley.html
Jim McCann June 07, 2012 at 10:21 PM
Why and how do school officials think they have the power and right to censor Coach Lindley for making a comment/explanation and then refusing to answer any questions to explain their actions? Most of the reason there is a controversy is because there has been NO official explanation of ANYTHING. How does the school justify this action and this perogative to not explain itself at all?
sebastian dangerfield June 07, 2012 at 11:23 PM
Why do they think they have a right to censor her? Im not sure they do...but why does the school think it can breathalyze students at off-site events? Why can a kid get suspended and kicked off a team for 'inappropraite behavior' but an adult, who should know better, have superior rights to a student? Some of these young women are 18 years old--yet if they are in the same room as someone drinking, they get kicked off the team. If the coach , or a school nurse was there, then they get an entire process. I wonder what would happen, if there were 10 girls who at one time or another, signed a letter saying the reason they quit the team was because of Lindley. Would the same people who place value on the letters from supportive girls, find the naysayers simply spoiled grapes complainers, and dismiss their ideas? Who knows. But, I think people have their mind made up , if this behavior is acceptable, or not. So--yeah --maybe its time to move on.
Owsley June 07, 2012 at 11:26 PM
I'll stop if you stop first.
Owsley June 07, 2012 at 11:28 PM
Blood sweat & tears!
Owsley June 07, 2012 at 11:33 PM
Siwanoy You seem very clever and angry. I wish I could use the reply button better. Run along now, best tend to your plethora of responsibilties, which must be going undone due to all the time you are spending here.
Jack8R July 14, 2012 at 06:24 PM
Good point Joe... I read through the comments, some of which are intense and lose their luster as having been shots fired from the hip. It was not lost on me that no one wrote about LAX carrying the aura of being an Ivy League sport with the Ivies being where their child should be educated, on scholarship. During the last 2 years 80 colleges have added LAX to their athletic programs. Still rooted in the burbs and not yet viewed as pedestrian LAX is becoming sort of an everyman's sport. Calm down, suck it up or suck an egg but your boss, assuming you have one may be just as demanding... let the kids learn. Sit in the stands and yell go ducks, or tigers, or pumpkins and remember it's just a game - let the kids figure it out. It just may save them from one day sitting on Ellen's couch or joining Oprah's weight loss academy.

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