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Cops: He Choked Mother, Thursday; Girlfriend, Saturday

Police arrested Elias Sofronas of Darien on second-degree strangling charges twice in one week. Arrest and incident information is supplied by the Darien Police Department. It does not indicate guilt or convictions.

On Nov. 1, a Thursday, Elias Sofronas, 47, was released on $50,000 bond after he was arrested on charges of assaulting and choking his mother.

By Saturday, Nov. 10, police were called to the scene of another incident and wound up charging Sofronas with strangling again. This time he was accused of choking his girlfriend.

Darien Police Capt. Frederick W. Komm, a spokesman for the department, gave this account of the incidents:

In the first incident, Sofronas' mother, who lived in the same home with him, heard a noise in her bedroom. In the past Sofranas would go into her bedroom looking for money, she told police.

When she confronted him, he choked her, pushed her against a wall, then pushed her downstairs. She had a swolen neck and red marks on her neck after the incident, but she declined medical treatment.

Sofronas was charged with third-degree assault on an elderly person, second-degree strangulation and disorderly conduct. He posted $50,000 and was freed, but only after a protective order was issued forbidding him to go back to the house.

At about 4:22 a.m., Sofronas' mother, who lived in the same home with him, heard a loud argument between Sofranas and his girlfriend, who lives at the same address. The mother called 911.

The couple had been out together, and on their way back they got into an argument, police were later told. The girlfriend threw his keys out the window, which he then couldn't find.

As she tried to get back into the house, Sofronas grabbed her by the neck. She was able to back away and get in the house, which he also entered. He then threatened to assault her with a knife, although apparently he never made a move to get the knife.

He later left the residence, but police located him and arrested him, this time keeping him in lieu of a $150,000 bond.

This time, Sofronas was charged with disorderly conduct, second-degree strangling and second-degree threatening. He appeared Monday in state Superior Court in Stamford.

Editor's note: Earlier versions of this article used the word "strangled" instead of "choked." One definition of "strangle" is to choke, but the more common definition of that word is to choke to death. Although Connecticut statutes call the criminal charge "strangling" (Section 53a, 64bb) they define the criminal act as choking in the more common sense. To avoid confusing readers, the wording has been changed to "choked" in the headline and story.

Charley December 08, 2011 at 01:22 PM
One less attendee for occupy Darien.
David Gurliacci (Editor) December 08, 2011 at 02:37 PM
Ed Infurna posted a very good comment pointing out that the common definition of "strangle" is "choke to death," and so the original article was misleading in using the word "strangle" instead of "choke." I changed the article based on Ed's comment, after taking a look at the state statute and a dictionary. Although, technically, "strangled" could mean "seriously choke," it's too confusing to use the word that way. Unfortunately, Ed's comment got deleted—I think I did that by mistake when I wanted to hit "Reply" and hit the wrong button. I'll restore the comment if I can. Sorry, Ed.
Ed Infurna December 08, 2011 at 03:48 PM
Thanks, David. One small additional note...I think there is still a slight error: Article states "By Saturday, Nov. 10, police were called to the scene of another incident and wound up charging Sofronas with choking again. This time he was accused of strangling his girlfriend." Shouldn't it be "By Saturday, Nov. 10, police were called to the scene of another incident and wound up charging Sofronas with strangling [the legal charge] again. This time he was accused of choking [the action, which didn't result in death] his girlfriend.
David Gurliacci (Editor) December 08, 2011 at 09:14 PM
You're right. Changed.
Chandra Johnson Greene December 27, 2011 at 02:01 AM
A few comments have been deleted. Please refrain from calling each other names that are defamatory or offensive. Thanks!
Heatherlee January 29, 2013 at 11:04 AM
Oh my goodness!!! I ended things with Elias in December 2005 when assaulted me while we were on holiday in Turks and Caicos. IRS so sad to see he hadn't changed... and neither has his mother. The night she picked me up from the train station I told her all of the "lies" he told me & she said I was too much of a nice woman for her son & didn't want to see me ever again with him. I don't know if she is afraid of him or if she is codependent. Perhaps both. Blessings to all of them. May they know peace.
Heatherlee January 29, 2013 at 11:11 AM
Oh my goodness!!! I ended things with Elias in December 2005 when he assaulted me while we were on holiday in Turks and Caicos. (I separated rooms immediately refusing all contact, enjoyed the rest of my stay I paid for, returning to his mother's home to retrieve my things ((without him)) & never accepted contact from him. Wow! I may have truly "dodged a bullet.") It's rather sad to see he hasn't changed... and neither has his mother. The night she picked me up from the train station I told her all of the "lies" he told me & she said I was too much of a nice woman for her son & didn't want to see me ever again with him. I don't know if she is afraid of him or if she is co-dependent. Perhaps both. Blessings to all of them. May they know peace.
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 01:50 AM
where did my comment go?
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 02:03 AM
Oh my god, I just got finished doing 13 months in prison to read this, I just wrote a really long story about what really happened and when I tried to post it, it never posted, but Ill rewrite and save it in the morning, I cant believe how people twist and turn the truth, and omg Heatherlee, I cant believe you, why would you even be looking me up, its the only way you could have came across this article, Heatherlee is a girl I met on the internet who lives out in the mid west someplace and I bought tickets for us to go to Turks And Caicos, yes Heatherlee I paid for your ticket from your door to Turks and Caicos and back, I flew her to New York then we went to Turks and I found her in bed with someone in a matter of hours and I went and got another room and left her there, she never came back to my house that's all made up......
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 02:16 AM
I cant sleep now till I post what really happened , so here we go. It all starts back in November of 2010 when I got diagnosed with Alcoholic Cardiomyapathy (heart disease) and I had stoped drinking and I must also say doing drugs, If Im guilty of anything its poor judgment and drinking and doing drugs, strangulation omg! never in my life!!! Anyway a few months before this event, I started drinking again and my mom had picked up on it and she nagged and yelled at me to stop on more than one occasion because she knew that with my heart problem I could put myself into total heart failure and kill myself.
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 02:33 AM
On this night I was drinking and doing drugs and ended up going to this strip club to where I met this girl who said her name was Amy (not her real name) I don't to this day know her real name, but I did hang out at the strip clubs and had gotten to know more than a few of the girls, anyway this girl Amy (she was never my girlfriend) convinces me to let her stay with me at my house because she was trying to get away from her abusive boyfriend and could she please stay with me for a few weeks till she gets on her feet, so I said sure. (Thinking completely different thoughts, than ending up in jail, if you know what I mean) I go back and pick her up at the strip club when she gets off that night and it just so happened that a friend of mine had a grand opening at a new bar he just opened and invited me to go, so I tell this girl that we are going to stop in there for a few drinks can she please be cool and not act or do anything stupid to embarace me, because me and this girl Amy where also doing some coke and I didn't want the people there to know about it.
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 02:47 AM
While at my friends place, not 30 minuts pass and she is trying to trick herself and embarases the hell out of me, well I get mad and tell her to come on where leaving, if she wants to stay good, find someone to take you home, or just because I promiced you and I know you don't have anywhere to go now, I can take you to my house, but Im not staying ill just drop you off and go. So she comes and gets in my car, I drive home and when I stop, she grabs my keys and takes off in the house, she does this because she doesn't want me to leave, because she know where im going, she knows I know all the other dancers and that im probably going to go party with a few of them, and she would have been absolutely right, because that's exactly what I was going to do, I wasn't in the mood to argue with her stupid ass, especially after that stupid stuff she pulled.
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 02:59 AM
I chase her through the house to get my keys and when I catch up with her she said she through them off the balcony, oh great! So no me and her are arguing back and forth she is trying to tell me not to be mad because of what she did at my friends that it was no big dean that she wanted to make a little extra money for us, yea right, first, I don't ever want that kind of money and number two, I felt like she was forcing me to stay with her and the more I felt that the more I wanted to get away from her! Meanwhile my mom is upstairs listening to us, because we probably both sound like a pair of idiots (which we where) my mom now knows that I was drinking and probably using drugs and she was terrified I was going to stop my heart and kill myself and she felt the only thing she could do to save me from myself is lock me up anyway she could.
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 03:08 AM
so this is where the strangulation thing comes in, when the cops came I didn't even know who called or how they could have known we where arguing, my mother called from her room I didn't even see her, when the police took me in, I didn't even know what I was being arrested for, till way later when they told me I did not believe them, I didn't believe it till I bonded out and herd it from my own mothers mouth, she told me she was sorry but she didn't know what else to do to get me to stop drinking that she couldent just sit by and watch me kill myself (I don't blame her, but lets get the story right please)
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 03:26 AM
And by the way, the red marks the cops say they saw on my moms neck, where from acid peels my mom does, they weren't finger marks, there is a difference, although the acid peel does look bad, it is not strangulation! Now when I bond out the next day my mom calls me and tells me that, That Amy girl is still at the house and she is acting very weird, and could I please go there and get her out, so im thinking that this girl must be really messed up by now and I hope she dosent do anything stupid to my mom, so I hurry home, violating the protective order because im hoping this girl wont hurt my mom im not thinking about any protective order now, so when I get there me and the girl start to argue all over again, back and forth nonsense and so my mom calls the police again not thinking anything about the protective order, she didn't even know the courts had one in place, but now this girl Amy knows what had happened with my mom the night before and uses this to her advantage and says I tried to do the same to her, ohhh this just gets better and better, I couldent make this stuff up, I swear!!!
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 03:40 AM
I may have done things to hurt myself in the past, but I never hurt anyone intentionally, I was married and have been in 5 other serious relationships in my past and have never touched anyone, I sure as hell am not going to start with my mom at age 47 I was at the time, now I just got out of prison for all that stuff and now im 49 with a birthday coming up in a few months, im not afraid to say im guilty for something I did, but please don't expect me to say im guilty for things I never did, and I didn't plead guilty to no strangulation charge, I pleaded guilty to assult 3rd which is argueing with someone which in turn violated my probation and they gave me 18 months of which I served 13 and the only reason I pleaded guilty to that was because I needed time to get myself right with the alcohol and drugs and my heart health and I knew if I went to jail I could concentrate on my health 100% This is Elias Sofronas and this is what happened.
elias11223 November 09, 2013 at 03:54 AM
Also after they arrested me for the second time that next day, that Amy girl convinced my mom with her tricky little way to let her stay at the house for a few days because she had nowhere to go, then when someone finally came and got her, my mom checks my room and everything of value was gone, my pc, some extra cash I had hidden, a comforter, some clothes (I couldent figure out that one ether) etc...

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